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April 29 Growth: Trisha Roberts
Am I Normal? Mmmm... a question I did ask myself at one stage. And a question I'm sure many of you have asked yourselves... I am probably not normal by current society or cultural values... I've given up trying to understand why I'm a transgendered... I just am... I've learned that no-one knows what creates us; not the psychologists, not the geneticists, not the scientists (I'm sure the religious movements have their view, but they actually have no idea either)... NO-ONE KNOWS... It's no longer important for me to know the reason or cause. It's just who I am. It's taken me a long time to realise and learn this. For years I thought that I must be seriously abnormal ... It's been a long torturous journey with many mistakes and "painful" discoveries along the way. But it's also a journey that has enabled me to understand and know myself better and ultimately feel comfortable with myself. I've grown and developed as a person over the years. And I met many interesting and wonderful people along the way. So where am I now in my TG evolution? I've realised that I'm more than "just a crossdresser" ... It's taken me a long time to get to this Let me hear your comments... I'd like to continue making and developing new friendships as I continue my journey towards living full time.... March 16 Love to meet and chatTo My Friends Still In The Closet... Please don't assume that because my coming out was without any major problems that your's will be too. First off I have been blessed with having a spouse although she does not particpate nor helps me when I transform myself into TRISHA, she does not hassel me nor stops me from becomming or being TRISHA, I also have two wonderful children who are adults today that are somewhat open minded... That more or less tolerates the times I do become TRISHA... I have heard horror stories about divorce {which has happened to me during my first marriage} about job loss, being classified by friends as being perverted, sicko, queer, "YES" have had to deal with being treated by old friends, co-workers, neighbors, family members, your not alone there.. "YES" I have had to deal with like many of you fighting and trying deal with "depression" as a result of coming out... Please keep in mind that being TRANSGENDERED is not an acceptable behavior still in today's society...I Am one who has fully emerged from within my closet to where I do not mind being viewed and seen by the public... I have become quite comfortable with my appearance while out in public places... And I no longer have these type of thoughts {"oh my is somebody going to read me?"} when I Am out and about as Trisha... To be totally honest with you "YES" lot's of people are gonna noticed your not really a female... I have gone dressed to the casino's, mainstream resturants, shopping malls, dress shops, gone to museums, some clubs.. Transitioning can do many things for you: end the guilt and pain that most of us carry until we make the decision that Transition is the only thing we can do to have a normal and happy life. Holds true in some cases, but there is a lot of baggage that gets built up over the years as we struggled to be able to make that decision. Reaching that Place shall take the rest of my life.
Come on Girls lets Meet!!! January 11 Southern California High Desert T-Girls
To My Friends Still In The Closet... Please don't assume that because my coming out was without any major problems that your's will be too. First off I have been blessed with having a spouse although she does not particpate nor helps me when I transform myself into TRISHA, she does not hassel me nor stops me from becomming or being TRISHA, I also have two wonderful children who are adults today that are somewhat open minded... That more or less tolerates the times I do become TRISHA... I have heard horror stories about divorce {which has happened to me during my first marriage} about job loss, being classified by friends as being perverted, sicko, queer, "YES" have had to deal with being treated by old friends, co-workers, neighbors, family members, your not alone there.. "YES" I have had to deal with like many of you fighting and trying deal with "depression" as a result of coming out... Please keep in mind that being TRANSGENDERED is not an acceptable behavior still in today's society...I Am one who has fully emerged from within my closet to where I do not mind being viewed and seen by the public... I have become quite comfortable with my appearance while out in public places... And I no longer have these type of thoughts {"oh my is somebody going to read me?"} when I Am out and about as Trisha... To be totally honest with you "YES" lot's of people are gonna noticed your not really a female... I have gone dressed to the casino's, mainstream resturants, shopping malls, dress shops, gone to museums, some clubs.. Transitioning can do many things for you: end the guilt and pain that most of us carry until we make the decision that Transition is the only thing we can do to have a normal and happy life. Holds true in some cases, but there is a lot of baggage that gets built up over the years as we struggled to be able to make that decision. Reaching that Place shall take the rest of my life.Come on Girls lets Meet!!! August 04 Weekend spent as TrishaAugust 4 2007
I went shopping yesterday and met with my friend Betty Sue.... What a great time we both had. Had a wonderful morning, afternoon and evening out yesterday enfemme, my semi-weekly adventure. And didn’t really have an agenda yesterday except I wanted to wear my new outfit I had bought last week while working in Santa Barbra. Discovered this cute Jaclyn Smith brownish (with a faint paisley pattern) Moleskin faux wrap long skirt and matching jacket, orange knit top, black heels, black pantyhose with roses embossed in them at K-Mart…. Plus jewelry also.. Nothing special happened yesterday with one exception my friend Betty convinced me to have lunch with her at the Cheese Factory other than that it was a luscious day out. First Betty and I went to the Dress Barn in Rancho Cugamonga . What a great shop! They cater to us girls and make us feel VERY welcome. The staff that work there are absolute dolls and will even allow you to utilize the dressing room to try on any of the outfits, if you are having problems making a choice. It was an unhurried and most delectable time for the both of us... Betty and I must have tried on at least l5 outfits where I finally purchased two Capri Set's, a day dress and two short outfits. Betty and I then went to Torrid Fashions... It carried Plus Sizes. The sales clerk, actually fawned all over Betty and Me and wanting to chat and chat and chat and she offered her opinion on what she thought would look nice on the both of us.....helping me find something to fit. This store had a marvelous selection of plus sizes starting at 14 and a great selection of styles I found a few dresses that I will be purchasing later this month from that store... . Again, the staff were wonderful and kept telling me how great I looked when I tried on some of the dresses and what I wore yesterday while shopping in their store... I can say this about the staff MOST were complimentary and actually very encouraging. All in all a wonderful afternoon in heels!.. Ended up purchasing two pairs of jeans, one pair of Capri's, two slinky and clinging type of blouses and a pair of sketch sandals from Torrid Fashions..... Girls those sandals are the most comfortable sandals to wear, a little pricey but well worth the price.... While out yesterday with my friend Betty both of us strolled Victoria Gardens a huge outdoor shopping mall set up to look like a small town. Although I didn't feel or look my best and I far from have a feminine walk, no one bothered us and as nervous as I was it felt just great. It was truly an extremely and exhilarating experience yesterday and my being able to walk around Victoria Gardens as Trisha with my friend Betty Sue where she took me to lunch at the Cheese Factory certainly made for a wonderful afternoon... My first time ever going and eating at the Cheese Factory as Trisha.... Have to say this about that place.... They treated us Great! Very nice place, good food with reasonable prices. Another place I can recommend as being trans gender friendly.... On the way home yesterday evening, I decided to stop at this small club located in VictorVille, it's a gay orientated mixed club that is Trans gender friendly, stopping in for a drink since they have a nice little bar and the bartender is really cute. There was nobody at the bar at all the bartender commented and asked me if someone was going to meet with me. I said "NO", just heading home and thought I would stop here and see if anything was going on.... We chatted for a while as I finished my drink and still nobody came into the bar. I still had a long drive home and finished my one drink... For a Friday evening I was the only one in the bar... I guessed that was a sign so I decided, I'd just go home... I felt somewhat tired from shopping and spending the day with Betty... Drove home and immediately changed into the Olga black nightie I bought earlier in the week while I was in Santa Barbra.. Turned on the TV and it didn't take me long to fall fast asleep... Last night I had this dream that I was meeting with a friend who lived in Oklahoma... A G who finally obtained her nursing degree and she wanted me to move in with her and become her live in soul/mate.... Waking up this morning with both of my dogs in bed with me laying along side of me... I woke with a smile on my face and felt this wonderful warm feeling through out me.....feeling totally refreshed.... Maybe this dream was telling me that there is a Woman out there waiting to meet someone like me.. SMILING, is there??? Nothing special happening to day except I had to go out to get some things at K-Mart and decided that I had to go in drab. Only problem was I didn't want to take off the nail polish so I just left it on. No problem at the store because it has a self checkout. The customer service person must have seen my nails because she smiled at me and said something about nails as I left and exited K-Mart.... I Returned back home and spent the remainder of the morning out enfemmen and getting some exercise....rode my bike 15 miles... I'd exercise more if I could dress this way all the time riding my bike...!!! Wearing my light blue three piece exercises sweat suit... Lately I’ve really started feeling and seeing the changes occurring to my body and loving every minute of my new life as I spend more and more time as Trisha! My body is coming along nicely, showing some real changes in certain spots.... It's such a wonderful feeling when my hand touches my breast's how my nipples seem to enlarge and respond to the touch.. I'm finding myself fondling my breasts alot now... When I stand straight, my body seems to have a more curvy look to it, especially when I'm standing sideways... Maybe its just my imagination, however as I stood there this morning in front my full length mirror, I could actually see changes beginning to occur... Have kept in touch with my counselor via the telephone and e-mail... Been having pretty good phone sessions with my therapist lately, just love the time when I'm able to chat with her. She's made an appointment for me to see her in September... Most of this summer I haven't seen her, just chatted on the phone or e-mails... She really clears the head, and clears up my questioning of some of my old problems when ever I have chatted with her or when I have read her responses to my e-mails... A lot of my doubts can be traced back to the Dysphoria. Looks like information on being Transgendered is becoming more mainstream news... I see so many programs on television that show us in a good light and that we are just like everyone else trying to live our lives in a peaceful existence... http://msnbc.msn.com/id/18618970/site/newsweek/ Most of the way they used to portrayed us in the movies and on TV is just silly, (yes there are a small percentage that act that way, but that is their choice too) most of us are just like everyone else. Do you know what a tTg Girl is? It means I Am a woman from within, and I think and act as a woman does, so, to complete my life, I transition with female hormones, and a full array of feminine clothing, make up, and everything else that a genetically born female would have in her life.... Those of us who are Transgendered Non-Op Transsexuals are Women from within... Of course many of us have had to live a duel existence's most of our lives which has made it difficult for many of us to finish or complete the long journey to Womanhood...
Looking and acting as a real woman has taken me years and years to perfect, not an easy road taken when I had to live a duel life...
Are there any Large Sized Women in the Southern California area interested developing a friendship/relationship Me... A Woman or another Pre-0p like myself that would help me perfect my makeup skills, hair styling skills, mannerisms to where they would become more natural looking and not like I'm forcing them out... One who would enjoy going on outings, such as dinning out, going to clubs, going dancing, site seeing, enjoys museums, art galleries, wine tasting, cultural events, wine tasting, ect...... Maybe even become intimate... Yes although not functional as a male, I still have those thriving inner needs where I want to be touched, held tightly and closely, love having my breast's fondled, having and producing kisses that become so hot, both of us melt in one another arms... Is that possible... Can it become a reality.. Or Am I just a dreamer and have the reality that I'll probably end up living alone the remainder of my life..
I Am looking for a serious long term relationship, with either a supportive and loving large sized woman, or, a supportive, and loving Tg girl like I Am...who lives in the Southern California area.... I Am fully prepared to meet someone new, and go from there, after all, I don't want to transition all by myself, so, doing it together is better than doing it all alone..
My sincere wish is to meet a large sized Woman, or a T-girl who like myself is a Non-0p transsexual, that will accept me into being Trisha Marie, full time and would assist and help me in going all the way too, especially since I wish live full time and that includes my using hormones and having an Orchidectomy too...
Here's an article I just read the other day and thought you all might be interested reading.... Enjoy I certainly did....
I have to spend later in the day with my spouse today.... Taking her to see her family {sisters}... A duty that keeps peace and harmony in this household...
Hugs.. Hope to hear from you some of you soon...
Trisha Marie Roberts August 03 A Closer look at my life: Trisha
My goals as a TG/TS are simply to live my life as the person I am; Trisha July 31 More than just waterMore Than Just Water!!
![]() No one, other than another trans-person, can ever understand the pain we go through. No one can understand the lengths we will and have gone through to simply ‘fit in’.” Not to be too pessimistic but I am not sure that no matter how much society moves towards the acceptance of trans people there won't be someone looking to get step up by pushing trans people down. In my own situation I am feeling that, around people at work who have known me for quite a while, my gradual 'femming' has been noticed and I feel a consequent admonishment or questioning of my status despite my performance being equal to or greater than theirs. Maybe I am being over-sensitive ... No one, other than another trans-person, can ever understand the pain we go through. No one can understand the lengths we will and have gone through to simply ‘fit in’." Can non-trans folks precisely understand the struggles of trans folks? No. Can non-parents precisely understand the struggles of parents? No. Can women precisely understand the struggles of men, and vice versa? No. But let's be honest with ourselves ... you don't need to understand the pain to recognize the pain and to be able to help. Just about everyone goes to extraordinary lengths to fit in. I'm not saying being trans is any easier than being non-white, or being LGB, or being a jock, or being a nerd, or being poor, or being all of those things. But I wouldn't agree that it's any harder, either. When it comes right down to it, those of us who are Transgendered are just people with problems and struggles (and egos that keep us from going to the doctor in a timely manner).
A question I'd like to ask to those who do read my blogs's...
IS A WOMAN A WOMAN BECAUSE SHE DEFINES HERSELF AS A WOMAN, OR BECAUSE SHE WAS BORN AND RAISED AS A WOMAN? Like to hear and read about your experiences and feelings on your definition on how you have defined yourself....
I'm seeking and searching for other Transgendered individuals who like myself seek honest friendships and want to be with someone who can be trusted and relied on.. That would enjoy being with someone who would really care about you as a person.. I do value and appreciate those who have the same principles, and is seeking someone like myself wanting more pleasure and excitement {I don't mean simply sex} out of life.. Someone who is hung up by society's attitudes and opinions on issues they don't understand... I have many other interest's besides just transitioning... If you like what you've seen on my blog site and how I've expressed my feelings and thoughts and your a LARGE SIZED WOMAN who is seeking a TRANSGENDERED INDIVIDUAL like myself who isn't into mis-using or abusing your feelings and would like such a friendship where we both can begin exploring our care-free future together.. This doesn't have to be "live-in", even though I would like for us to meet frequently, enjoying a friendship/relationship of each other for the special people we are.. If you are ready for this, I Am too, so why are you waiting!!!!!! Being in touch with our "feminine side" we both can enjoy everything associated with being female...enhancing our emotional feelings about feeling good about ourselves...
I consider myself a "Social Butterfly" a great description for myself.. I believe that friendships are one of the most important things in life, I now spend alot of time with my many new friends enjoying good times and many laughs... Having a family that has not fully accepted nor can understand why I would want to give up living a life they knew me as... Today I tend to see my close friends as being family and enjoy nothing more than to spend time with them doing everything or doing nothing.. When I'm not out and about being the social queen I can normally be found at home taking it easy, enjoying my dogs and just getting everyday things done.. In times of quiet, I'm more than likely listening to music and thinking of things that are on my mind.. Quiet time at home is important for the balance in the body.
For many years I struggled through out my life trying to deny, purge, rid myself of feeling feminine and it has taken me years to figure out that the only person I was trying to run and hide from was myself, but not before going through many different life experiences, from the highs of working and dealing with the public in a career that dealt with the Criminal element to working with those who were addicted to drugs/prostitution and were homeless.. Realizing that there were people out there who have had harder times than I ever experienced in my life.. Sure I have had it hard, but I can sit back and look at some of the people on the street that for what ever reasons they just couldn't overcome their addictions that caused them to be homeless/addicted to drugs/alcohol/have low self esteem of theme selves... I was able to raise two children to become successful as they grew and became adults... I retired from a 30 year career in Civil Service... Had many ups and downs but always picked myself up and continued forward... Had a failed marriage that ended horribly and nearly destroyed my life.. Again picking myself up and continued going forward.. Although I'm in Loveless marriage, its not as horrible as it sounds.. Over the years both of us have learned to lived with-one another to where today we actually have become better friends and treat one another as such today.. We both realize that eventually I will be totally living as a WOMAN... Will it cause us to divorce... "Can't Answer that" YES and NO
Only time will tell............
Just sitting here and typing thoughts and feelings....
There must be a Woman out there who would like to develop a friendship and join me on outings and fun trips... Or Am I just a dreamer.......
Trisha July 21 FOUR DAYS OF BEING TRISHA
July 20 The Full Time Life of Being FeminaJuly 20th 2007 THE FULL TIME LIFE OF BEING FEMINA
I have changed considerably over the last l8 months, physically and emotionally.. My body has taken on a 38AA to an A cup, depending on which brand bra I purchase.. My waist has shrunk from a size 40 to a 35, my hips are still a 36... Where the waist surplus has gone I dont' know.. Many of my features have softened, however it hasn't been enough to stop the occassional reading and subsequent abuse when I'm out and about in public as Trisha... The biggest change in this part of my life though has been the emotional change... I cry all too easy.. I feel losses of loved one's far more keenly.. Sometimes I hate when my emotions change at the drop of a hat and at those times I wonder what hell has happened... I attribute my emotional enlightenment with my useage of "Hormones".. I see things in such a wider context now and with a duality of mind... My life as Trisha has its ups and few downs now and again, however spite those downs which seem amplified by Hormones.. I've been on a roller coaster ride during the last l8 months.. I will be still learning for the rest of my life.. Nature for what ever reason decided that I was going to be special, I think all of us in this world probably have thought that of ourselves, that we are all unique in one way or another... Learning over the years that I Am a unique indvidual.. Over the last 51 years I have cried over what I Am and raged against the unfairness.. Hiding my true identity of what I Am and Who I Am about.. No matter how hard I tried to purge, rid myself of this fem/persona, my femina would push forward and would not be denied... I wish this situation on no other men or woman... It's been very hard and a difficult journey for me to fully accept that I Am more than just a Crossdresser/Transvestite.. Taken me years and years of living in shame, fear, feeling guilty,being angry,living unhappily,sadden by the fact I possessed a feminine persona... Girls the highway we travel through our lives is never ending, constantly changing kaleidoscope of textures, sounds,smells and movement... The Journey I've taken has AFFECTED everything I've done in my life.. Over the years some changes that I made and I thought were slight caused huges changes to occurr over time with my life that have taken me into other worlds and deminsions I never dreamt that I would one day inhabit.. Yes there was a time I believed I was a Crossdress/Transvestite.. A harmless activity that I kept under wraps and still being male with no major gender crisis.. I dressed and behaved as a male where I was able to control these feminine feelings... Eventually occassionally dressing no longer filled my emotional needs and I found myself dressing more and more frequently for longer periods of time.. NO LONGER A SEXUAL NEED in fact as I realised it was no longer sexual, the shame that previously accompanied my dressing sessions evaporated and I felt much calmer, happier and more at peace with my surroundings and myself... I needed more, I needed the shape and I needed the looks as much as possible... I was still unware that I had taken irrevocable steps that led me to the crossroads and that my path was taking another direction in my life... One that was far different from the one I previously been following.. As I became more and more aware of these changes occurring in my life and the direction I was now taking... I searched and surfed the net extensively for knowledge that would help me... The knowledge I gained from reading everything I could get my hands upon, find on the net, eventually helped me to begin accepting that I was more than a Crossdresser/Transvestite... By mid 90's and upwards till the end of the 90's.. Trisha emerged.. No longer in the closet but becoming more and more active and open about who I Am, What I wanted in my life, Where I was heading, of course during this time frame I also realized there is going to be a very high price to pay as I spent more and more of my time as Trisha.. One important element that I failed to realize was the possible loss of love from immediate family members.. But the price does not end there Girls, the hormone crashes and joys, the loss of employment, the abuse and mockery from the ignorant and many more downsides are all part of this process... And as I continue to go forward I can honestly say this I have become happier than I have ever been in my life... So being a Non-Op Transexual the only reason my life is happier? "NO" not on its own.. There have been so many good things that have occurred in my life... My hope is that before I die I will be able to find a WOMAN OF SIZE that would want more than just a friendship.. A "WOMAN" that would hold a warm spot in her heart for me where both of us shower one another in kindness, acceptance and love... Am I asking too much for this to become a reality in my life.... "Probably so" however I do feel dreams can come true... If one truely believes...
Like to hear your responses and comments.. Sometimes I feel those of you out there are just too closeted to help one another emerge...
![]() Trisha Marie Roberts March 06 Apple Valley Tg Trisha RobertsMarch 6 2006
Being a Transgendered Male involves more that just wearing feminine attire. It means hurt and courage and empathy. It is nurtured within - while the struggle goes on in a different room of our soul. I hope I'm able to help those who like myself have faced and dealt with being discriminated against and to tell my story on how it has affected my 56 years of living..
I do hope that I'll hear from voluptuous sized Women who have faced similar forms of discrimination because they were born with bodies that are not acceptable in terms of what socieity has termed the norm..
Trisha Marie Roberts
A transgendered male/heading towards 24/7 living.. |
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